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Resources for Victims/Survivors

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If you are being abused:

  • You have the right to safe and healthy relationships.
  • It is not your fault. You are not responsible for your partner's abusive behavior and/or violence.
  • Make a safety plan. A counselor can help you with this.
  • Reach out to friends and family so you have a safe place to go.
  • You may want to get a restraining order to protect you. Information about how to get a restraining order can be found here.
  • Talk to a counselor who is trained in LGBT relationship violence issues. Couples counseling might make the situation more dangerous.
  • Learn about the services in San Diego for victims/survivors.

Safety Planning (whether you plan to leave or not)

A safety plan gives you information, support and options at your fingertips. It can reduce your risk and help you regain some control over your choices. Here are some ideas to think about:

  1. If you can't avoid an argument, try to move to a room with an easy exit. If you can't exit, go to a room with a lock on the door like a bathroom. Avoid the kitchen or any room where something can be used as a weapon.
  2. Keep emergency cash with a trusted friend or hidden where you can get to it quickly.
  3. Know bus routes and other ways to get away if you can't use a car.
  4. Use a code word with your family, children, friends or neighbors to alert them if you need them to call the police.
  5. If the situation is dangerous, keep yourself as safe as possible. Call the police as soon as it is safe to do so.
  6. You have the right to get a restraining order. Information about how to get a restraining order can be found here. Keep the restraining order with you at all times. Leave extra copies at work, with a friend, in your car, etc.
  7. Know which people and places you can go to for support, as well as comforting activities that can reduce your stress and anxiety.
  8. Know what locations are open 24 hours and have people around (coffeeshops, police stations, hospitals, etc.)
  9. Think about excuses you can give for getting out of the house and know what times your partner will be away.
  10. Keep a bag packed that is ready to go and easy to grab at a moment's notice in case you need to leave quickly (even if you just need to get away for a little while.) You may want to store this with a trusted friend.

Checklist: What You May Need to Take When Leaving

  • Identification: birth certificates, driver's license
  • Money, ATM card, checkbook, credit card, cash
  • House and car keys
  • Photos of injuries your partner inflicted on you
  • Legal papers: Copy of restraining order, medical records, paternity or custody papers, etc.
  • Cell phone, address book, important telephone numbers
  • Work permits, green card, passport, etc.
  • Children
  • Pets
  • Medications and other medical supplies

Local Resources for Survivors

The San Diego LGBT Community Center (The Center)
3909 Centre Street
San Diego, CA 92103

Center for Community Solutions
Coastal Location:
4508 Mission Bay Drive
San Diego, CA 92109

East County Location:
460 North Magnolia
El Cajon, CA 92020

North County Location:
240 S. Hickory St. Suite 110
Escondido, CA 92025

Family Justice Center
1122 Broadway, Suite 200
San Diego CA 92101
866.933.HOPE (4673) or 619.533.6000

Family Justice Center of East County
10765 Woodside Ave.
Santee, CA 92071

County of San Diego, Health and Human Services, Office of Violence Prevention

San Diego Domestic Violence Council
707 Broadway, Ste 700
San Diego, CA 92101
TDD: 619.702.7198

24-Hour Toll Free Crisisline: 1.888.DVLINKS (385.4657)


Project Safehouse

Hidden Valley House


South Bay Community Services

Women’s Resource Center

Y.W.C.A. Becky's House

Other Resources

3020 North Park Way
San Diego, CA 92104

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

National Domestic Violence Hotline
TTY: 800.787.3224

Law Enforcement

If this is an emergency, call 911.

The SDPD Domestic Violence Unit

Carlsbad Police Department                                      760.931.2197
Chula Vista Police Department                                  619.691.5151
Coronado Police Department                                     619.522.7350
El Cajon Police Department                                        619.579.3311
Escondido Police Department                                    760.839.4722
Naval Criminal Investigative Services                        619.556.1364
Oceanside Police Department                                    760.966.4909
San Diego Police Dept. Domestic Violence Unit      619.531.2387
San Diego Sheriff’s Dept. Domestic Violence Unit   858.467.4576    (For Del Mar, San Marcos, Encinitas, Santee, Vista, Solana Beach, Lemon Grove, Imperial Beach, Poway and unincorporated areas of the County.)

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